There is a comment in voices today...kind of ruffled my feathers!
Quoted from voices
"The reason there are so many divorces today is because women don’t know how to cook or how to clean. They want everything right now and, if we don’t give it to them right now, they are all mad. it’s just give me, give me."
Maybe the reason there are so many divorces today compared to way back when, is because women have determined that they don't need a man to have a good life.
In a normal marriage, a man goes to work, and he comes home and he might do a few things around the house, (You know Honey-do's) or he might be exhausted and just decide to sit in his lazy-boy and watch TV and wait to be called to supper, or maybe even have his supper brought to him. Then he goes to bed... Plus weekends off.
I'll give 2 examples:
1. Stay at home mom: She gets up, gets the kids ready for school, out the door, cleans the house, and starts thinking about what is for supper, gets the kids from school, helps with homework, cooks supper, cleans kitchen, (Sports might be in there somewhere) does more laundry, kids in bath, more laundry, eventually she gets to go to bed, but her day isn't over there, because she just joined her husband who still expects the other wifely duties.
Stay at home mom doesn't sound to bad....
2. Working mom: She gets up, gets kids ready for school, gets kids out door, goes to work, works all day, comes home, thinks about what to make for supper on the drive home, gets home, makes sure kids have done/are doing homework, fixes supper, starts a load of laundry, serves supper, cleans kitchen, (might be kids sports in here), more laundry, kids in bath, more laundry, picks up after kids, gets them in bed, goes to bed herself, but her day isn't over, because her husband has been waiting for those other wifely duties.
A stay at home mom is a mom/wife 24/7
A working mom works 8 hours a day, plus she is a mom/wife 24/7.
The husband, wants the wife to be at home making sure the house is perfect, but also wants her working to help with income.
I don't blame the women for not wanting to cook everyday, or to clean the house everyday. I would love to see a man do what a woman does day in and day out.
I agree, the comment ruffled
I agree, the comment ruffled the feathers a bit. As a women that has a career (working 40hrs a week), plus working on furthering my education via internet at home at night, I find it difficult to get things done around the house. And we don't have kids yet.
However, because my husband works nights and I work days, we lead almost seperate lives. He does his own laundry, cooks and cleans up after himself...most of the time.
We have this unspoken agreement that I take care of the kitchen and doing the dishes. He takes out the trash and mows the lawn. Everything else is up for grabs as to who has time.
Since getting married, we have discussed having children and how that will affect our lives. We agree that after they come, I will go back to work before they are of school age. So I'm sure I will eventually end up like your second scenario. However, I think my husband will step up and help out around the house. He's from old school views...we both are really...but neither one of us totally agree with that way of thinking...housework and child raisin' being left to a women.